1. Telling a girl they just met how
pretty she is:
Compliments are fine. Especially
when they're sincere. Everyone likes to
hear something from another human being to make them feel better. When a man, within 30 seconds of meeting a
woman, says "You're beautiful", it doesn't sound sincere. It just sounds like a cheap attempt to get
laid. Pretty girls usually know they're
pretty. "Cool, but say something
interesting." Save the "You're
beautiful" and "You're pretty" for when you really get to know a
woman. If you direct those compliments
toward her personality AND appearance, you appear much more genuine and
sincere.
2. At the bar, buying a drink for
her when you've just met:
The logic--"I'm interested. She
needs to know that I'm interested. I'll
do something nice for her and that'll make her come and talk to me." That's nice of you, but if a woman isn't
interested, a free drink isn't going to make her. If you've been chatting 20 minutes and it's
you're making a bar run, offer her a drink.
If you just said hi, immediately offering a drink makes you look desperate
and implies you can't converse. Pretty
girls get drinks bought for them all the time.
It's not an invitation to follow her around all night. If you have nothing to offer other than $7
for overpriced cranberry vodka you'll just be a drink ticket for her.
3. Bragging:
Whether you brag about your six-figure income, your workout regimen, your
new Porsche, or the fact you've been doing groundbreaking research at Harvard
Medical School, it's all going to have the same effect. It just screams "Please like
me." It's great to have nice things
and nice accomplishments, but finding an excuse to point them out at the start
can just make you look insecure and like you're trying to compensate. You'll seem much cooler and comfortable with
yourself if you just let her see the things for herself. If you need to brag about what you HAVE or
what you DID, you're not showing her that you're a good guy, even though you
may be. If you have good qualities,
they'll show. You don’t have to go out
of your way to point them out.
4. Acting like you're already
together:
This doesn't apply so much to the initial meeting, but after a date or
two. Some men get territorial with a
woman way too quickly. You really like her;
you know you have competition, so you tighten the grip. You get a little too possessive too quickly
and start acting like her boyfriend.
